A natural force

SOMEWHERE, in most women’s conscious or unconscious minds, is the unspoken expectation that, if their marriages or relationships last, they will most likely outlive their partners. They know that their children, for whom they’re primarily in charge, will grow up and leave. And they face a barrage of advertising and other societal cues that subtly but ever so steadily suggest that they’re not getting older, they’re getting invisible.

But whether expected or a bolt from the blue, each loss, each change, each transition, offers a woman the chance to slightly alter course — or even try an entirely new path.

Credit stamina, stoicism — or what researchers call resilience, meaning the ability to come back from serious adversity such as war, rape or the devastation of a hurricane. Regardless of the name, science is beginning to examine its source — a powerful combination of biology, social behavior and psychology, all of which conspire to give women some boosts that men don’t have.

Certainly, suffering and change aren’t the exclusive domain of women. But this mix of physical and mental stuff that makes a female, combined with a woman’s typical life experiences, helps explain how some teenage, poverty-stricken mothers get an education, a job and raise the kids; how some mid-life dumpees and young widows are able to dry their tears, roll up their sleeves and learn to change a tire; how some long-cared-for wives learn, when their husbands die, where the money is and how to balance a checkbook.

“I always told my husband, I want to go first. I don’t want to live without you,” says Florence Halpern, 76, of Woodland Hills, whose husband, Philip, died 18 months ago. “And yet here I am.”

She’s hardly alone.

Those 5.3 bonus years that women, who live to an average age of 80.1, have over men are a mixed blessing, often leading to decreased mobility and increased loneliness. “It’s the price we pay for survival,” says Barbara Migeon, geneticist at Johns Hopkins University Medical School.

Not only do women live longer than men in the United States, this year, for the first time, the longevity gap will likely become a worldwide phenomenon.

Thanks to advances in maternal care, women in every corner of the globe will outlive their male compatriots, according to projections published in the April 8 issue of the British Medical Journal.

Their health advantage has long been chalked up to hormones. Now scientists are starting to explore the DNA within each cell, and they’re finding some protective benefits to having a double dose of the X chromosome, as females do, compared with the X-Y combination that males have.

But biology alone can’t keep a human being moving forward through heartbreak. Social and behavioral scientists, too, are finding that the networking skills first picked up in caves and passed on through millenniums of grain- and berry-gathering serve women today in getting through abuse, abandonment, infertility, divorce, widowhood — even the collapse of a nation.

The fall of the former Soviet Union in 1991 gave social scientists a tragic laboratory of research material to study gender differences. “They found that single men were the most vulnerable. On average they lived about six or seven years shorter than before the fall. Most of these men couldn’t find work, they hung out with each other, they drank and smoked and were belligerent,” says Shelley E. Taylor, social neuroscientist at UCLA and author of “The Tending Instinct.”

Times were just as tough for the women, but, while there was a slight drop in their life expectancy, females didn’t die off in droves. Nor did they drink, smoke and fight. “The women created informal social networks. One person would stand in line for bread, another would take care of children while another looked for work,” says Taylor. “These networks were very sustaining for mental and physical health.”

Genetic benefits

A female’s biological advantage begins in the womb.

There, the fertilized egg that becomes a girl gets a double dose of the X chromosome, while the egg that becomes a boy gets an X and a Y chromosome. In both sexes, each cell carries the individual’s genetic code. In men, that’s made up of genes on 22 pairs of chromosomes, and one pair of mismatched sex chromosomes, an X and a Y. It’s the same for women, except each cell carries two copies of the X chromosome. Yet no one can survive with two working versions of the X.

“Females aren’t allowed to have twice as much gene product, so we turn off one chromosome,” says Migeon, whose work on the topic was published in the March 22/29 issue of the Journal of the American Medical Assn. “It’s random. In half your cells, it’s the mother’s X, in the other half it’s the father’s.”

So women end up with two types of cells. A number of genetic diseases originate on the X chromosome, such as color blindness, muscular dystrophy and hemophilia. With only one X, boys might get just the defective cells, while girls get a mixture of normal and defective cells — a kind of backup system to prevent some diseases.

The system that protects women from some disorders can also backfire. If one of the two types of cells comes to dominate, the other type might escape recognition by immune system cells that recognize “self,” triggering an internal attack. That might be why women are more likely to suffer from autoimmune diseases such as lupus. “There’s no proof of this yet, but this is the implication,” says Migeon.


Mixing instinct and know-how

BIOLOGY and medical visits get women off to a good start. Then a woman’s psychological need to “tend and befriend,” Taylor found, can protect her through hard times far more effectively than the much-studied counterpart impulse in men: “fight or flight.” The lucky children benefit from the caretaking. But some of those less than lucky, remarkably, figure out how to compensate.


Angela Kennedy, assistant professor at the school of social work at Michigan State University, extensively interviewed 10 young women who grew up in Chicago’s ghettos. All of them had witnessed violence, some had been its victims, all were teenage mothers and none had good family support. Yet four of the young women managed to go to school, get jobs and escape the cycle of poverty. One thing they had in common was an ability to connect with someone outside the circle of trouble.

“These are the kids that a teacher or a neighbor is drawn to,” Kennedy says.


Genetic research is confirming that some people are, indeed, special. They may have inherited a particular gene that programs them for added resilience in the face of adversity. Simply put, those with advantageous DNA, including what’s called the 5HTT gene, bounce back better.

But for those who lack the gene, all may not be lost. MarySue Heilemann, professor in the school of nursing at UCLA, studied 315 women who had emigrated from Mexico. If resilience is in part an inborn personality trait, attitude and circumstance can give it a shot in the arm. “What some theoreticians imply is that you either have it or you don’t,” says Heilemann. “Even if that’s the truth, what if you have a little bit of resilience? Is there something that can boost it?”

Her study found, not surprisingly, that money is a resiliency booster. But the amount necessary to keep on truckin’ doesn’t conform to the usual definitions of poverty or wealth. “Women who said that their finances were adequate to meet their needs during the last month coped well,” she says. Enough money to meet monthly obligations, whether that’s a $500 rent check or a $5,000 mortgage payment, can ignite a spark of resilience.


The friendship factor

IT takes only casual observation and a modicum of life experience to see that women are good at making friends, and that their friendships are important to them. Women are nurturers, caretakers and talkers. Science, says Taylor, has charted the benefits of nurturing throughout the brain.

The female instinct to call in the helper troops, that network of girlfriends, sets up a chemical cycle unique to women. When females feel stress, Taylor says, the hormone oxytocin is released. That encourages them to protect the kids and start the telephone tree going. Contact with children or friends releases more oxytocin, further calming them and everyone around them.

The hormone works better at reducing stress for women, Taylor says, because estrogen apparently enhances the action of oxytocin, while testosterone seems to reduce its effect.

“What you see in the brain is lower activity in the anterior cingulate cortex, greater activity in prefrontal cortical regions and lesser activity in the hypothalamus among people with strong networks,” says Taylor. Other researchers have connected those areas to heart rate and blood pressure regulation, as well as to emotions and empathy. Women literally carry around a network of support in their heads.

That may be why those supportive girlfriends that women so famously cultivate don’t have to be next door, down the block or even in the same city. Women just have to believe the network is there, and will rally when the SOS sounds.

With America’s mobile society, Tanya Finchum, professor at Oklahoma State University, wondered how important proximity was to friendship. She talked to 25 women, age 45 and older, who had relocated across state lines several times in their lives and kept in touch with old friends. It takes, she found, at least once-a-year contact such as a Christmas card, for the relationship to continue — two missed years, and the friendship is history.

But letters, telephone calls and e-mail updates, detailed and honest about bad news as well as good, were a fine substitute for what might have once been a face-to-face coffee break or shopping expedition. “They don’t just paint a rosy picture,” she says. “They share intimacies, right down to the nitty gritty.”

Far-away friends have helped sustain Halpern through the grief of widowhood. Her best friends go back decades and most of them live in New York.

“I’ll call Shirley and talk for two-and-a-half hours. Sisterly things. Motherly things,” she says. “And Gloria, she’s a friend from the third grade. I sat behind her in class, and I’ll never forget, she had pigtails. And Irene — I worked with her in a bank at the Empire State Building. When I feel a need to talk, I’ll call any of these people.”

Men, women and children, for the most part, seek their comfort from women. And, unless the demands become overwhelming, the nurturer’s health and well-being are aided by the very act of helping. “If you look at people who give a lot of social support and compare them over time, the givers as well as the recipients are healthier,” says Taylor.

So a woman with young ones in tow, or aging parents who need help, or a husband who depends on her for his social and conversational support is getting back at least some of what she’s giving.

Later in life, grown children often return the favor, providing support to mothers left alone. A year and a half after her husband’s death, Halpern still mourns and continues to miss the companionship of the man who always had a smile for her. But her sons are good weekend company, and her five grandchildren are potential companions for the travel she still wants to do. She keeps her calendar filled with volunteer work at the Jewish Home for the Aging, lectures, games of mah-jongg and an occasional bus trip to see an opera.

“I cry. And then I make a plan,” she says. “I do things I’ve never done before.” Autor: Susan Brink
Fuente: lat

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